Thursday, April 30, 2015

Thursday Movie Picks: Father-Daughter Relationships


It's another Thursday and another Thursday Movie Picks!  This is a subject very near and dear to my heart, and so picking movies for this one was hard because there are just so many.  So, I decided to go with two films that carry particular meaning for me, and then one just to fuck with everybody.

Because, well, I can.

So, let's just get into it.

Today's theme is:



Yes, I'm a father, and I have two daughters, so this theme was one I've been waiting for.  It's funny because my eldest has recently discovered The Game Plan, you know, that cute little Rock movie where he plays a football player who finds out he's a dad.  Anyways, she's been watching it all week and so I kept thinking to myself, 'maybe this is a sign' and I contemplated picking that one, but no, I like my three.  So, like I said previously, I picked two films that mean a lot to me as a father and then I picked one just to mess with everyone.

Paper Moon

There are few films that fill my heart with this kind of warmth.  There is just something about the blunt snark here, the way that this relationship is so NOT typical and yet every bit as honest and sincere and loving beneath the surface that just gets to me.  The things they say to each other, the way they regard one another, the things they do in front of each other; none of it is remotely acceptable or politically correct and yet it's all so forgivable because you can see how deeply they love each other (or grow to love each other) and it just makes sense for them.  The fact that this was a real like father-daughter pair adds to the obvious connection they have and makes for such a rich film experience.  

In fact, I love this film and this relationship so much that I have an origami (paper) moon tattooed on my hip with the names of my two daughters hanging from a star.

In America

When the wife was pregnant with baby #1 we went to a birthing class and during one of the exercises they asked the fathers to tell the class which film father they wanted to emulate, which cinematic father inspired them.  Apparently I was the only cinephile in the class because no one else had an answer, but I had an immediate one.  Considine's Johnny is such a heartfelt, earnest, hardworking, loving father who wants so desperately to take care of his family and be the man he needs to be for them.  The love he has for his two little girls is so apparent in the way he looks at them.  It just moved me so much.

Oldboy
I'm not going to say anything except for...I know that picking this was completely fucked up, but I'm cool with that.

36 comments:

  1. Love the fact you picked Oldboy (even though I was kinda hoping I'd be the only twisted one to pick it, haha).

    Haven't seen the other two, but I can see why this topic is close to your heart. Quite nice hearing how much you care for your daughters.

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    1. LOL, I almost feel shamed that Oldboy came instantly to mind, but I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought of it.

      And they are my life.

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  2. Interesting choices. The relationship in Paper Moon is so complex, as is the real life one between the O'Neal's, and Bogdanovich does a great job of exploring it. I appreciated In America for the performances and skill with which it was made more than liked it but the dynamic between the father and his daughters is wonderful portrayed. I haven't seen Oldboy and don't really know anything about it, I'll have to look it up.

    I only had the three this week but at the last minute thought of one more I love so much I had to add it as an extra.

    Music Box (1989)-Jessica Lange stars as Ann Talbot a lawyer who has a close, loving relationship with her émigré father, suddenly after nearly 40 years in America the father is accused of horrendous war crimes. Sure of his innocence she represents him but as the case progresses she begins to wonder if there is more to it than she knows. Slowly their relationship starts to unravel. Jessica was Oscar nominated for her role.

    Life Begins at Eight Thirty (1942)-Ida Lupino plays a young disabled girl who spends her days trying to help her alcoholic father, Monty Woolley, return to his glory days as a famous actor, until handsome composer Cornel Wilde comes into her life. Monty finally lands the lead in King Lear and a chance to return to the spotlight, but will he lose the daughter he's taken for granted all these years? Beautifully acted.

    Little Nellie Kelly (1940)-A young Irish lass, Nellie Noonan played by Judy Garland, loves a man, Jerry Kelly her father doesn't approve of but over his objections she marries him anyway and the three move to America where Nellie tries to play peace maker between the two until she dies unexpectedly in childbirth. The film then jumps ahead 18 years where the baby is now a young girl, Nellie Kelly also played by Judy, who has assumed her mother's role of trying to keep peace between her understanding dad, now chief of police and her hard headed grandfather who has stayed home and raised her. They live under an uneasy truce until Nellie falls for a young man and all the old tensions flare up. Minor film in Judy's canon but she does sing It's a Great Day for the Irish, Singin' in the Rain and a few other songs beautifully.

    Honorable Mention-The Heiress-A mousy young woman is slavishly devoted to her father, a cold martinet who resents her for causing her mother’s death in childbirth and who constantly crushes her spirit by comparing her unfavorably to the woman who in his mind was perfect. At a dance she meets a man who shows interest in her and embarks on a whirlwind romance and engagement of which her father strongly disapproves. She stands her ground but is jilted and her paternal relationship turns poisonous. Strongly directed by William Wyler with brilliant work by the entire cast. Olivia de Havilland's win is one of the most deserving ever in best actress.

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    1. I've only seen your honorable mention, but I've been wanting to see Music Box for a long time. Never heard of Life Begins at Eight Thirty, but I love Ida Lupino, so I'll have to check that one out! Ohh, Judy Garland! Love her too, duh!

      Glad to see love for Paper Moon :-D

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  3. Nice picks. I'm totally arching an eyebrow at you though.
    Paper Moon is so great, it really holds up to every re-watch I've ever given it. And In America...yeah, that one really gets to me. Didn't even think of it though!

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    1. Paper Moon really does hold up! I saw it years ago and was smitten but was afraid when I introduced it to others that it wouldn't feel the same, but it feels the same every time.

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  4. OMG Oldboy? Really? lmao

    I love your picks. All great films, and the stupid ET doll thing in In America makes me cry EVERY time. Ugh.

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  5. I'm literally in the middle of watching Paper Moon for the first time as I read this.

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  6. Like I commented on Myerla's blog, Oldboy was even too twisted for me to pick, lol. And I LOVE that movie. Thought about using it for a split second then chickened out. Proud of you both for going there. Haven't seen the others, but sounds like I really should. Great story about the tat.

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    1. Yeah, Myerla and I are obviously EFFED up, but I just had to go there.

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  7. UGH In America. The scene at the fair with the freakin' ET doll. It just destroys me every time. Of course, as with most things, it's all Samantha Morton's fault - the way she slowly comes around to it, you can see on her face when she realizes what's going on and then she just keeps putting down that money and... GAH I CAN'T WATCH!!!!!!

    Also: Desperado. Through the video camera. TEARS. ALL THE TEARS. Those girls are INCREDIBLE.

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    1. YES, those Bolger sisters are just aces in that film. They sell every moment, especially the eldest. She kills me.

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  8. I keep reading about an ET doll scene in the comments, so I looked up to see what it's about. I read some of the plot of Wikipedia, and fuck. In America sounds depressing. Still can't find that ET scene though, ahha.

    Oldboy is a great choice. Fucked, but great.

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    1. In America is depressing and yet it ends on a strangely hopeful note. Like...SO MANY TEARS and yet it isn't without light.

      I'll leave the ET scene to your own discovery.

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  9. I've only seen In America but I so agree that Paddy's so good in this role! I need to see Paper Moon, but Oldboy isn't really my cup of tea.

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    1. Oldboy is worth seeing for the pop culture phenom that it has become.

      Paper Moon is one of the best out there, ever.

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  10. I haven't seen any of your picks, but looking forward to watching Oldboy!

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    1. When you do, you'll understand why choosing it was effed up.

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  11. Paper Moon almost made my list. Like, it was #4. Great picks! I loved Oldboy, but haven't seen it in years. In America is a title I remember hearing a lot about but never saw it. Need to.

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    1. In America was a film the wife and I bought on a whim and wound up in a puddle by the end of the night, but the cast is SO GOOD!

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  12. I haven't seen Paper Moon which I hope to rectify later this year but I do enjoy your other picks although I was weirded out by Oldboy.

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    1. See it!

      I think you'd be weird not to be weirded out by Oldboy.

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  13. I love Paper Moon. I felt that was a rich film in so many ways. I have not seen the others and not sure about that last one at all since I don't know anything about it:) I like Prancer-That little story about a girl trying to save a reindeer and the father who loves her but having a hard time dealing with her since losing his wife. Father of the Bride-Great film with Spencer Tracy and Liz Taylor as the daughter. He fears losing his daughter but she knows where to go when she feels lost (I am not loving the remake of this film). The last one is Hotel Transylvania! I love that animated film even though Adam Sandler plays the dad. he is so protective of his daughter and has issues when she falls for a typical human.

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    1. I almost went with Father of the Bride, the Spencer Tracy version. His performance is just beautiful, one of my favorites of all time, and so accurate, authentic and honest. I haven't seen the other two you mentioned.

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  14. Paper Moon was on my list on another theme a few weeks ago, so it got left out of this.

    In America is one those movies that I know is very good, but looks super depressing and I don't feel like going on the emotional ride.

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    1. It is an emotional ride, but it's rewarding, and so I hope one day you try it out.

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  15. These picks are so inspired and so varied. LOVE them!

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  16. Paper Moon is a beautiful choice. I fell in love with that movie when I was a little girl. I haven't seen the other two.

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    1. I love all of the Paper Moon love!

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  17. I just saw Oldboy and... HOLY SHIT!!! Great inclusion.

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